Weekend Learning #006
People will be drawn to you when you’re driven by love, passion and want to.
👋🏼Hello friends! Every Sunday, I compile 5 of the best learnings and quotes that I come across through the week and 1 question for you to ponder. Enjoy!
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5 Learnings
1. Diversify yourself 💐
One of the most important parts of developing an identity that can thrive, persist, and endure change is to diversify your sense of self. You can think of identity like a house. You want the house to have multiple rooms. Perhaps there is a "parent" room; an "athlete" room; an "employee," "entrepreneur," or "executive" room; a "community member" room, and so on. It's okay to spend a lot of time in just one room, but you've got to ensure you keep the others in good enough shape. This way, when you experience a massive change or disorder event in one area of your life, in one room of your identity, you can step into other areas to gain your footing and stability. Like a diversified portfolio in investing, diversifying your sense of self makes you more rugged and flexible in the face of change.
— Brad Stulberg, Master of Change
2. Swim on 🐠
"Just keep swimming”
— Dory, Finding Nemo
3. Five levels of motivation 🔺
Love
Passion
Want to
Fear
Reward
Fear and reward are at the bottom. Fear and reward are good short-term motivators, but they don’t do a great job of leading to long-term change. The reason is that when you’re motivated by them, it takes more and more of them for you to do less and less work. They get diluted over time. You think about money. If you make $1,000 and have never made money before, you think you’re rich — until you find out someone makes $5,000. Then, you really want that, and you find out someone makes $10,000. Fear gets diluted because the consequences have to be more and more extreme. Those are external drivers.
Love, passion and “want to” are internal drivers that you need less and less of to do even more. They’re the exact opposite. When I just want to do something, I don’t have to be paid for it because I desire it, I want it. You don’t have to give me an alarm clock for me to wake up for it. If I’m passionate about the work, I’m going to do it.
Your true motivation will always be exposed. People will be drawn to you when you’re driven by love, passion and want to. When you’re driven by fear and reward, people will see you as inauthentic.
— Stephen Mackey, coach & keynote speaker
4. Today 🌻
What will you do today, knowing that you are one of the rarest forms of life to ever walk the Earth?
How will you carry yourself?
What will you do with your hands?
Tomorrow you could die, but today you are precious and rare and awake.
Grateful and awake, ask what you need to know now.
Say what you feel now.
Love what you love now.
— Mark Nepo, author and poet
5. Great leaders make people better ⏫
Happy is the man who can make others better, not merely when he is in their company, but even when he is in their thoughts!
— Seneca
Question of the week
Who can you cheerlead for if not yourself?
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